Why oh why?

How much are we responsible for what others feel or do? Why is a female always told that she can be substituted with maids? Can a wife, a mother, a daughter-in-law substituted with a maid? While, a daughter, a sister or a female friend can't. Why can't men understand that if a female is doing house work, even then she cant be substituted with a maid. Dont know when this patriarchial mindset will change!