Shades of love

We all might have experienced the feeling of love but have we understood it completely? Love has different shades. Every time you think that you understand it completely, it unfolds a different shade , a different emotion, which only a person in love can understand.

A heart which can love is a heart to cherish because in this selfish world, self-less love is rare. Just pick up a newspaper and you will find news of lovers injuring or abusing each other. What I don't understand is that how can you hurt a person (both physically or emotionally) if you love that person because love is about empathasing, about feeling each other's pain and hurts.

If we love a person, we need to accept him as he is. We can mould a person to be a better person but we cannot change him to suit our requirements because he is an individual with his own likes and dislikes. Accept it or not, a person may change himself to please you for some time, but belive me, it may be a temporary change because certain facets of personality remain ingrained unless the person himself wishes to change them.

I have been in love with my hubby for the past 11 years and over these years, one thing that I have learnt from him is to accept your soul-mate as he/she is. Even though I had my set of flaws and he tried to amend them with love, he never admonished me for them...he accepted me just the way I was - flaws or no flaws. Though I don't like to confess but yes, some of the flaws still exist. Even his love could not change them as they were deeply ingrained in me. But, he has accepted me just the way I am even though I had not been so understanding at times.